Sunday, June 11, 2006

Problems? No problem!

"Sometimes, problems are good because they keep you awake. If you believe it's so easy and you start dreaming, you crash" - ex French national soccer player, Emmanuel Petit.

How true. Problems CAN BE GOOD.

But most of the time, we fall into the bait of being consumed by problems.
Before we even face it, we've already associated problems with negative connotations.
Words like trouble, difficulties and chaos come to mind to scare us.
And the pre-occupation dealing with the problems nick us of the belief and foresight that any good may come out of it.

Sometimes, it's a matter of whether we want to see it that way- that a problem can be good and made good. That this problem may actually avert a potentially more serious one. Whether we allow ourselves to view it in that light- that problems can eventually turn out to be blessings rather than curses.

It's funny how, for some, uniqueness isn't valued when it comes to problems. Togetherness somehow is. Pple like to hear that they are not the only one suffering. It appeases them somewhat that others are going through tougher issues. And it makes them sore when others seems to have a good time while they are riddled with problems.

I've come to realise recently...
Everyone has problems.
Not only you.

So stop indulging in those whining and laments of how hard your life is.
Stop pitying yourself.
Stop assuming that others have it good naturally.
That they are favoured to be that slim and tall. Smart to get those grades without studying. Fortunate to clinch the prestigious job. Lucky to excel in their work.
Just because they appear smiling in front of the cameras doesn't mean they have it good all the time.
The regimented workout, the disciplined revision, the rigorous preparation and concerted performance behind the scenes. The pain and toil applies to them too. The sacrifices and strength to deal with the problems, face the music to emerge better and stronger.

Don't penalise them just because they don't talk about their problems, just because they have more grit to handle and overcome the problems.
It will only get you down more.
Quit comparing and envying others for the seemingly smooth and good life others seems to have because there's much more than meet the eye.

"Pain, you just have to fight through, because the truth is you can't outrun it and life always makes more. " - Dr Meredith Grey, Grey's Anatomy

Same for problems in my opinion. Life just keeps making more. No choice but to ride on it and ride it off.
Few of us would embrace problems with open arms.
But think of the times we've gone thru problems, look back and relieved it with fondness. (Think those 'I never would want it any other way' replies to questions).

I don't think just because of this, I wld never feel stumped or defeated, confused or stuck.
It's not a miracle cure and its too airy-fairy to think of anyone bursting with positivity and yelling for problems to be brought on.
Only that there's no need to fret when one can't sleep. It maybe good to be kept awake occassionally to avoid the crash:)

On another note , it's a lovely sunday morning with the dewy smell of a drizzle and a cool breeze. Just can't help but give a wl-trademarked, woot:P
Have a blessed sunday and week ahead!

4 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

yeah it's odd how "camaraderie in problem" seems to be too comforting. I suppose it's the assurance that one is not along and that if someone else can combat the problem, so can you? Nice post.
-bestfren

11/6/06 8:47 PM  
Blogger Maddy said...

Profound indeed... most of the times.. it's hard to fully comprehend.. when we ourselves are in it.. knee deep..

"Problems cannot be solved at the same level of awareness that created them. - Albert Einstein"

12/6/06 1:32 AM  
Blogger Cranberrymist said...

Ha, best fren, I think i've the SAME PROBLEM as u. I've to worked on being succinct! :P

Maddy: Yeah, it's so easy to sink in tog with e problems but we've got to rem tt when no one can walk with us, He will be there:) So take heart.

12/6/06 7:36 AM  
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